Navigating separation or divorce can be incredibly challenging for families, especially when children are involved. Books can be a powerful tool to help children understand and process their emotions, and they provide parents with guidance on how to support their kids through this difficult time.
Here’s a comprehensive reading list of books for children and parents, covering everything from coping with divorce to understanding blended families.
Books for Children
These books are written specifically to help children understand and cope with the changes in their family structure.
Max’s Divorce Earthquake (2019) by Rachel Brace A story that helps children understand the impact of divorce in a gentle and supportive way.
Mum and Dad Glue (2010) by Kes Gray A touching tale about a child who learns that even though parents separate, their love for their child remains strong.
Two Homes (2013) by Claire Masurel This book reassures children that they can feel at home in two houses after a divorce.
Two of Everything (2000) by Babette Cole A humorous take on how life changes after divorce, told through the eyes of a child.
Was it the Chocolate Pudding? A Story for Little Kids About Divorce (2005) by Sandra Levins A relatable story for younger kids, helping them understand that divorce isn’t their fault.
Skimming Stones: A Story About Overcoming a Family Breakdown (2007) by Steve Heron A beautifully written story about resilience and finding hope after family changes.
Sam’s Sunday Dad (1999) by Margaret Wild A story about a boy adjusting to spending weekends with his dad after a separation.
My Family’s Changing (1999) by Pat Thomas A guide that helps children understand and process the emotions associated with family separation.
I Will Always Love You – Helping Kids Cope With Divorce and Separation by Aya Alasbali A reassuring book that emphasizes the enduring love between parents and their children.
The Day the Sea Went Out and Never Came Back (2003) by Margot Sunderland A story that gently addresses grief and loss, perfect for helping children process emotions.
Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making Two Homes for Your Child (1997) by Isolina Ricci Ph.D. A practical guide for children adjusting to living in two homes.
When Your Parents’ Divorce: A Kid-To-Kid Guide to Dealing With Divorce (2013) by Kimberly King Written from a child’s perspective, this book provides relatable advice and support.
The Mending Chronicles of Liam and Emily: A Divorce Recovery Journey for Kids (2019) by Natalie Knox A story of hope and healing for kids dealing with their parents’ divorce.
The Divorce Helpbook for Kids (2001) by Cynthia Macgregor A supportive resource for children coping with their parents’ divorce.
The Invisible String (2014) by Patrice Karst A comforting story about staying connected to loved ones, perfect for separation anxiety.
The Family Forest (2015) by Kim Kane A playful story about blended families and the uniqueness of each family tree.
The Family Book (2009) by Todd Parr A celebration of diverse family structures.
Who’s in My Family: All About Our Families (2015) by Robie H. Harris A wonderful exploration of different family situations.
Books for Parents
These books offer practical advice and emotional support for parents navigating separation, divorce, and co-parenting.
Talking to Children About Divorce: A Parent’s Guide to Healthy Communication at Each Stage of Divorce (2016) by Jean McBride An essential guide to supporting your children emotionally during divorce.
Shared Care or Divided Lives: What’s Best for Children When Parents Separate (2008) by Phil Watts A thoughtful analysis of how shared care arrangements impact children.
Divorce is Not the End of the World: Zoe & Evan’s Coping Guide for Kids (2008) by Zoe Stern A guide to understanding the child’s perspective and supporting their emotional needs.
The Truth About Children and Divorce: Dealing With the Emotions So You and Your Children Can Thrive (2006) by Robert Emery Ph.D. An empathetic guide to managing the emotional complexities of divorce.
Co-Parenting 101: Helping Your Kids Thrive in Two Households After Divorce (2013) by Deesha Philyaw and Michael D. Thomas A must-read for co-parents aiming to create a positive environment for their children.
Your Kids After Divorce: The Care of Your Kids After Your Divorce (2017) by Steven Robbet Practical advice for helping children adjust post-divorce.
Surviving Your Split (2017) by Lucy Mannering and Rebekah Mannering A resourceful guide for navigating the emotional and practical aspects of separation.
What About the Kids? Raising Your Children Before, During, and After Divorce (2003) by Judith Wallerstein A deep dive into how divorce affects children and how to support them through it.
Don’t Divorce Us! Kids’ Advice to Divorcing Parents (2000) by Rita Sommers-Flanagan A touching collection of advice from children to parents going through divorce.
Why Books Are a Great Resource
Books provide a safe and accessible way for both children and parents to explore the emotions, challenges, and changes that come with separation and divorce. Whether it’s helping children understand their feelings or guiding parents through effective communication, these books can be invaluable tools.
If you or your family need further support, Coastal Lawyers is here to help you navigate separation and family law issues with care and expertise.
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Coastal Lawyers are family lawyers based in Erina, on the Central Coast.
Coastal Lawyers assist family law clients in parenting, property, mediation, dispute resolution, and litigation. We offer the legal advice you expect from a lawyer, along with the emotional support you might not expect.
We are passionate about assisting our clients achieve amicable separations without the need for court intervention through the process of legally assisted mediation.
Our team also frequently appears at the Newcastle Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Newcastle FCFCOA), the Parramatta Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Parramatta FCFCOA), and the Sydney Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Sydney FCFCOA) to represent our clients in more intricate family law matters. This encompasses issues related to family violence, unacceptable risk of harm to children, relocation applications, recovery orders and complex property settlements.
Coastal Lawyers offer a 1 hour Strategy Session for all new family law enquiries at a reduced hourly rate.
A parenting plan is a written agreement between separated or divorced parents outlining the arrangements for the care, living arrangements, and decision-making responsibilities for their children. While it is a legally recognised document, it is not a court order.
Key points about parenting plans:
Voluntary Agreement: Parents create a parenting plan voluntarily through negotiation and discussion. It is a flexible and collaborative approach to making decisions about the children’s upbringing.
Content: A parenting plan typically includes details such as the child’s living arrangements, visitation schedules, holidays and special occasions, communication methods between parents and children, and how major decisions about the child’s life will be made.
Customisation: Parenting plans can be customized to fit the unique needs and circumstances of the family. They are often more specific and detailed than court orders, addressing various aspects of parenting.
Non-Legally Binding: Although parenting plans are recognized by the law, they are not legally binding in the same way that court orders are. However, they are persuasive in court if both parents have willingly and knowingly agreed to the terms.
Changes and Flexibility: Parents can amend or modify a parenting plan by mutual agreement if circumstances change. The flexibility of parenting plans allows parents to adapt to the evolving needs of their children.
Encourages Cooperation: Creating a parenting plan encourages parents to work together in the best interests of their children, fostering cooperation and communication.
While parenting plans provide a collaborative approach to co-parenting, it’s important to note that they may not be a suitable solution in cases of family violence, child abuse, or where there are significant concerns about a child’s safety. In such cases, legal advice and court intervention may be necessary to ensure a child’s well-being.
Parenting consent orders are legally binding agreements made between separated or divorced parents regarding the care, living arrangements, and decision-making responsibilities for their children. These orders are approved by the court, making them enforceable and legally binding.
Key points about parenting consent orders:
Agreement by Consent: Both parents must reach an agreement on the parenting arrangements and submit the agreed terms to the court. The court will review the proposed orders to ensure they are in the best interests of the child.
Court Approval: The court will only make consent orders if it is satisfied that the arrangements are suitable for the child’s well-being. This involves considering the child’s age, developmental needs, and any other relevant factors.
Legal Enforceability: Once approved by the court, parenting consent orders become legally enforceable. This means that both parents are required to comply with the terms outlined in the orders.
Flexibility: While consent orders provide a structured framework for parenting arrangements, they can also be flexible and adaptable. Parents can agree to vary the orders by mutual consent, but any changes should be documented and submitted to the court for approval.
Duration: Parenting consent orders typically remain in effect until the child reaches 18 years of age. However, parents can request changes to the orders if circumstances change.
Decision-Making Authority: Consent orders may address specific issues related to decision-making authority, such as major medical decisions, education, and religious upbringing.
Avoids Court Litigation: Parenting consent orders provide a way for parents to formalize their parenting arrangements without the need for lengthy court proceedings. This can be less adversarial and more cost-effective than litigation.
It’s important for parents to seek legal advice when preparing parenting consent orders to ensure that the terms are comprehensive, fair, and in the best interests of the child. Once the court approves the orders, they become a legal obligation for both parents.
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Coastal Lawyers are family lawyers based in Erina, on the Central Coast.
Coastal Lawyers assist family law clients in parenting, property, mediation, dispute resolution, and litigation. We offer the legal advice you expect from a lawyer, along with the emotional support you might not expect.
We are passionate about assisting our clients achieve amicable separations without the need for court intervention through the process of legally assisted mediation.
Our team also frequently appears at the Newcastle Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Newcastle FCFCOA), the Parramatta Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Parramatta FCFCOA), and the Sydney Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Sydney FCFCOA) to represent our clients in more intricate family law matters. This encompasses issues related to family violence, unacceptable risk of harm to children, relocation applications, recovery orders and complex property settlements.
Coastal Lawyers offer a 1 hour Strategy Session for all new family law enquiries at a reduced hourly rate.
Navigating family law matters like divorce, parenting arrangements, property settlements, and Apprehended Violence Orders (AVOs) can feel overwhelming, especially when emotions run high. Thankfully, resources like Women and Family Law, published by the Women’s Legal Service NSW, provide clear, accessible information to help individuals understand their rights and responsibilities.
What is Women and Family Law?
Women and Family Law is a plain-English guide to family law in New South Wales, designed to break down complex legal concepts into straightforward language. Whether you are facing separation, negotiating child arrangements, or seeking protection through an AVO, this resource provides practical advice and guidance.
The guide specifically focuses on issues relevant to women but is a helpful tool for anyone going through family law processes.
Key Topics Covered
Divorce
The guide explains the “no-fault divorce” process in Australia and what you need to prove (12 months of separation) to apply for a divorce. It outlines the steps involved and what to expect during the process.
Parenting Arrangements
After separation, decisions about where children will live and how parents will share time can be challenging. Women and Family Law provides guidance on how the best interests of the child are determined and the importance of parenting plans or court orders.
Property Settlements
Dividing property after separation can be complex. The guide walks through factors the court considers, including contributions made by both parties (financial and non-financial), future needs, and superannuation splitting.
Apprehended Violence Orders (AVOs)
For individuals experiencing domestic or family violence, the guide explains the purpose of AVOs, the process for applying, and how these orders provide protection.
Who is the Guide For?
This resource is ideal for individuals going through separation, divorce, or parenting disputes who need clear and concise legal information. It empowers women (and others) with knowledge so they can make informed decisions about their legal options.
The Women and Family Law guide is particularly helpful for those who may not have access to immediate legal advice but want to understand the family law process in NSW.
Where Can You Access the Guide?
The 13th edition of Women and Family Law was published in May 2024 and is available online for free as a PDF eBook.
While the guide is a great starting point, personalized legal advice can help you take the next steps with confidence. At Coastal Lawyers, we specialize in family law matters, including:
Divorce
Parenting Arrangements
Property Settlements
Protection Orders
If you have questions or need legal advice, book a Family Law Consultation today:
Family law matters often come at some of the most stressful times in a person’s life. Resources like Women and Family Law play a crucial role in supporting individuals with the tools and knowledge they need to navigate these challenges.
If you’re going through a separation, managing parenting disputes, or seeking help with property settlements or AVOs, this guide is an excellent starting point.
Empower yourself with knowledge and take the next steps with confidence.
Written by Coastal Lawyers- Central Coast Family Lawyers
Coastal Lawyers are family lawyers based in Erina, on the Central Coast.
Coastal Lawyers assist family law clients in parenting, property, mediation, dispute resolution, and litigation. We offer the legal advice you expect from a lawyer, along with the emotional support you might not expect.
We are passionate about assisting our clients achieve amicable separations without the need for court intervention through the process of legally assisted mediation.
Our team also frequently appears at the Newcastle Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Newcastle FCFCOA), the Parramatta Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Parramatta FCFCOA), and the Sydney Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Sydney FCFCOA) to represent our clients in more intricate family law matters. This encompasses issues related to family violence, unacceptable risk of harm to children, relocation applications, recovery orders and complex property settlements.
Coastal Lawyers offer a 1 hour Strategy Session for all new family law enquiries at a reduced hourly rate.
Family law proceedings often delve into deeply personal aspects of life, making privacy a paramount concern. To safeguard this confidentiality, the Family Law Act 1975 (Cth) has undergone significant changes. The previous Section 121, which prohibited the publication of family law proceedings, has been repealed and replaced with Part XIVB. This update aims to simplify the language and clarify the rules around information sharing, while maintaining the same offences and penalties. Let’s explore what this means for you.
What Was Section 121?
Section 121 of the Family Law Act 1975 made it an offence to publish any account of family law proceedings that could identify parties involved, including children. The goal was to protect the privacy of families during sensitive legal matters.
Introducing Part XIVB
With the Family Law Amendment Act 2023, Section 121 has been replaced by Part XIVB. This new section continues to uphold the confidentiality of family law proceedings but does so with clearer language and guidelines. The offences and penalties for breaching confidentiality remain unchanged, ensuring that the privacy of individuals involved in family law cases is still protected.
Key Points of Part XIVB
Prohibition on Publication: It remains an offence to publish any account of family law proceedings that identifies parties, witnesses, or others involved, unless a specific exception applies.
Clarified Exceptions: Part XIVB provides clearer guidelines on circumstances where information may be shared, such as for professional consultations or with appropriate consent.
Penalties: The penalties for breaching these confidentiality provisions are consistent with those under the former Section 121, underscoring the seriousness of maintaining privacy in family law matters.
Why the Change?
The shift from Section 121 to Part XIVB is part of a broader effort to make family law more accessible and understandable. By simplifying the language and clarifying the rules around information sharing, the law aims to reduce confusion and ensure that all parties are aware of their rights and obligations regarding confidentiality.
What Does This Mean for You?
If you’re involved in family law proceedings, it’s crucial to understand that the confidentiality of your case is protected under Part XIVB. Sharing details of your case publicly, especially in a way that identifies those involved, can lead to serious legal consequences. Always consult with your legal advisor before discussing your case outside of the legal context.
Need Guidance on Family Law Confidentiality?
Navigating the complexities of family law can be challenging, especially with recent legislative changes. At Coastal Lawyers, we’re here to help you understand your rights and obligations under the new Part XIVB. Contact us today to ensure your family’s privacy is protected throughout your legal journey.
Written by Coastal Lawyers- Central Coast Family Lawyers
Coastal Lawyers are family lawyers based in Erina, on the Central Coast.
Coastal Lawyers assist family law clients in parenting, property, mediation, dispute resolution, and litigation. We offer the legal advice you expect from a lawyer, along with the emotional support you might not expect.
We are passionate about assisting our clients achieve amicable separations without the need for court intervention through the process of legally assisted mediation.
Our team also frequently appears at the Newcastle Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Newcastle FCFCOA), the Parramatta Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Parramatta FCFCOA), and the Sydney Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Sydney FCFCOA) to represent our clients in more intricate family law matters. This encompasses issues related to family violence, unacceptable risk of harm to children, relocation applications, recovery orders and complex property settlements.
Coastal Lawyers offer a 1 hour Strategy Session for all new family law enquiries at a reduced hourly rate.
When separating assets in family law matters, understanding the value of shared property is critical. A property valuation provides an expert assessment of a property’s worth, often required when one party wants to retain the property or when there’s disagreement about its value.
Here’s a comprehensive guide to property valuations in family law, including when and why they’re needed, how they differ from market appraisals, and the steps involved. Your lawyer will provide you with advice with respect to your specific needs.
What is a Property Valuation?
A property valuation is an independent assessment of a property’s value conducted by a jointly appointed single expert, often required under the Family Law Act. Unlike market appraisals or bank valuations, a property valuation is admissible evidence in court, making it a critical tool in resolving disputes over property division.
When Do You Need a Property Valuation?
If One Party Wants to Retain the Property: A valuation ensures both parties have an accurate figure for negotiations or settlements. If the other party is retaining the home it would ordinarily be prudent to have a single valuation so you can be sure that the value agreed reflects a fair market value.
If the Property Will Be Sold: A valuation isn’t always necessary when selling, as the market will determine the final sale price. In such cases, you can avoid the cost and time associated with obtaining a valuation. However, sometimes historical valuations are required for example, where one party brought a piece of real property into a shorter relationship and the ‘contribution’ of that property needs to be assessed. Or where one party has received a property by way of inheritance.
Market Appraisals vs. Bank Valuations vs. Property Valuations
Many clients assume they already have a valuation, but often it’s a market appraisal or a bank valuation, not an official property valuation: Below is an explanation of the differences.
Market Appraisal: Real estate agents provide these to estimate how much they believe a property might sell for. However, they are often inflated to attract sellers and are not considered reliable or admissible in court but can be useful when first commencing negotiations
Bank Valuation: These are typically conservative estimates used by banks for lending purposes. While more accurate than market appraisals, they are not designed for family law disputes.
Property Valuation: Conducted by a qualified valuer, this is the only admissible document in court if there’s a dispute about property value. The reason why such an expert is generally appointed as a single expert is so that each party don’t go to the expense of separate valuations which may then not be in agreement. They generally share the cost of the single valuation.
When Should You Obtain a Property Valuation?
You should initiate the valuation process as soon as discussions begin about one party retaining a property. Acting early avoids delays and ensures accurate figures for negotiations or court proceedings.
Who Pays for the Valuation?
The cost of a property valuation is generally shared equally between the parties. However, if one party cannot afford to contribute upfront to the report, the other party may initially pay the full amount, with an adjustment made during the final settlement to recover the other half.
How to Obtain a Property Valuation
An expert is agreed usually by one party providing a list of 3 and the other selecting one.
A joint joint letter of instruction to the expert is prepared setting out the terms of their engagement and what is required.
The parties pay generally in equal shares.
Access to the property to valued is arranged with clear instructions that the valuer is not to have any private discussions of substance with either parties to ensure their impartiality.
The report is prepared and sent to both parties.
The parties then use this report to settle their balance sheet and progress their property discussions.
Additional Tips
Delays May Require Updates: If there are significant delays in the property settlement process, an updated valuation might be needed to reflect current market conditions.
Need Help with Property Valuations in Family Law?
At Coastal Lawyers, we understand the complexities of dividing property in family law matters. If you’re unsure about the valuation process or need assistance with negotiations or court proceedings, our team is here to guide you every step of the way.y.
Written by Coastal Lawyers- Central Coast Family Lawyers
Coastal Lawyers are family lawyers based in Erina, on the Central Coast.
Coastal Lawyers assist family law clients in parenting, property, mediation, dispute resolution, and litigation. We offer the legal advice you expect from a lawyer, along with the emotional support you might not expect.
We are passionate about assisting our clients achieve amicable separations without the need for court intervention through the process of legally assisted mediation.
Our team also frequently appears at the Newcastle Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Newcastle FCFCOA), the Parramatta Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Parramatta FCFCOA), and the Sydney Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Sydney FCFCOA) to represent our clients in more intricate family law matters. This encompasses issues related to family violence, unacceptable risk of harm to children, relocation applications, recovery orders and complex property settlements.
Coastal Lawyers offer a 1 hour Strategy Session for all new family law enquiries at a reduced hourly rate.
