Parental alienation is a term used to describe a situation where one parent, through their actions, damages the relationship between their children and the other parent. This can lead to lasting emotional effects on everyone involved, particularly the children. Here’s what you need to know about parental alienation, how it’s addressed in family law, and what the courts can do in these situations.

Parental alienation syndrome involves a pattern of behaviors where one parent actively undermines the child’s relationship with the other parent. This can have severe psychological effects on the child, leading to confusion, loyalty conflicts, and in some cases, lasting mental health challenges. Though the focus is often on the parents, grandparents and other family members can sometimes contribute to the alienation as well, adding complexity to the situation.

There’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to alienating behaviors, but there are common patterns. These include:

  • Limiting the child’s time with the other parent.
  • Interfering with communication or plans for visits.
  • Portraying the other parent negatively or encouraging the child to keep secrets from them.

Alienating behaviors often become more pronounced when one parent moves on to a new relationship, but they can occur even when parents are still together.

  • The Alienating Parent: Often, the alienating parent may display narcissistic tendencies and unresolved anger towards their ex-partner. They might not fully grasp the impact of their behavior on the child and instead use the child as a means to exert control or exact revenge.
  • The Targeted Parent: This parent can suffer deeply, experiencing frustration, helplessness, and emotional exhaustion. Alienation can be financially draining as well, especially when it leads to legal battles over parenting arrangements.
  • The Alienated Child: Children caught in the middle may resist the alienating behaviors initially, but they are often dependent on the alienating parent, which can make it hard for them to maintain that resistance. Over time, the effects of alienation can manifest as anxiety, depression, social withdrawal, and difficulty forming future relationships.

In the Federal Circuit and Family Court, determining parental alienation can be challenging. Courts rely heavily on evidence and may request independent expert assessments to determine if alienation is taking place. Under Section 60CC(2) of the Family Law Act 1975, the court prioritizes the best interests of the child, specifically considering the importance of a meaningful relationship with both parents and protecting the child from harm.

If the court finds that one parent’s behavior presents an unacceptable risk to the child, they may take serious action, which can include changing the child’s residence. In some cases, courts have suspended contact between children and the alienating parent temporarily, as seen in notable cases like Ward & Ward, Lankester v Cribb, and Goldman v Goldman.

  • Ward & Ward (2016): The court allowed each child to live with the parent they were closest to but ensured they could still spend time together as siblings.
  • Lankester v Cribb (2018): Following unfounded allegations of abuse, the court transferred residence to the father and limited the mother’s contact to supervised visits.
  • Goldman v Goldman (2018): When the mother was found to be influencing the children against the father, the court suspended her contact with the children temporarily, ordering supervised visits for a period of time.

Parental alienation is complex and deeply impactful, but the courts are equipped to address it with the best interests of the child in mind. If you’re dealing with parental alienation or suspect it’s affecting your family, Coastal Lawyers can provide guidance and support tailored to your situation.

Contact us today to discuss your options and take the first step towards protecting your family’s well-being.


The information provided here is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. If you need specific legal guidance, book an obligation-free appointment with Coastal Lawyers online.

Coastal Lawyers is here to help you navigate the legal complexities of parental alienation, ensuring that the best interests of your children are always the priority.

Written by Coastal Lawyers- Central Coast Family Lawyers

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